Sustainable Police Wife
Here’s what’s going on with you:
· Resentful: You’ve told your husband, “You’re never home.” You feel like he’s always at work, court, a training, or working out. You don’t know when he will be home again. You are frustrated at your husband’s job. He loves it, but you can’t stand the hours. You feel like he’s married to the job. He’s missing out on so much.
· Lonely: You feel like you can’t really live your life fully because of his schedule. You feel torn between making plans without him or just waiting for what seems like forever for him to be home again so you can do things together. You are feeling all alone in this life as a police wife and/or mom.
· Overwhelmed: Your to-do list just keeps stacking up, because of all the overtime my spouse is working, and you don’t know when your husband will be home to help. He’s managing to work out, but you don’t ever seem to have time to work out or do things that you want to do.
· Disconnected. You feel icky towards your husband even when he is home. You are two passing ships in the night.
Here’s how Honu: a Police Wife Course can help you overcome this:
· You will wake up each day looking forward to your day, even if your spouse isn’t home that day, working nights, and a ton of overtime. Having anticipated potential feelings of resentment or overwhelm, you have developed daily routines that go smoothly even when you’re alone. You have delegated responsibilities that you need help with to allow you to feel present with your children.
· The solo parenting days go by so fast, because you’re out having crazy, fun adventures with your children. Your officer loves receiving photos of you and your littles. You have found fun things to do solo with your children where you feel comfortable.
· You have built a tribe of people to surround yourself with who “get you.” You look ahead at your spouse’s work schedule to anticipate moments of feeling lonely and avoid it by making plans with friends and family. You feel that your social needs are met and no longer feeling “stress depressy” when you officer is working a long weekend or holiday.
· You feel so strong in your marriage like nothing can shake you even though he’s working night shift and just as much overtime as before. You and your spouse have developed new routines to address reintegration, regular communication and dates. You plan for the long-term together whether it be vacations in the future or retirement plans enabling you to feel connected whether or not you are physically together most days or not.
You will create a peaceful, strong, sustainable police marriage by:
Creating sustainable self-care routines for you and your family.
Asking for and obtaining help to maintain peace.
Establishing independence routines that work for you and your family.
Increasing your gratitude and pride in your role.
Creating sustainable reintegration, communication, and date routines to enhance your relationship.
Building a supportive tribe you can depend on.
Program Details:
In this 11-video lesson course you will transform feelings of frustration and isolation into peace and connection. The course includes:
· 11 Lessons: Eleven videos, totaling over two hours of video content. Unlimited replays allowed. Lifetime access.
· 6 Printable Lesson Transcripts & Journal Prompt Documents: Six PDF documents that include the lesson transcripts for reading and 10-20 journal prompts per lesson.
About Me:
I have been in your shoes. I'm Kristen Linton, MSW, Ph.D. I have been a police wife for 11 years, have sold over 1000 police family books and have overcome many of the challenges that you are experiencing. I would describe our relationship today as strong and peaceful. In our early years, when we had our first son Maverick and Rick was working a ton of overtime in gang unit as a Los Angeles police officer, I struggled with resentment, overwhelm, frustration, and loneliness. I was able to get out of that funk by doing the following things, which I teach you about in this course.
Click below to become a Sustainable Police Wife now.
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Self Care as Free as Washer Bullets
Doing this within the next week will take you less than 15 minutes, is as free as dirty tupperware you find like a gift in the sink or bullets in the washer, and will leave you thinking...
Wow. I didn’t have a meltdown on the kitchen floor this week when my husband got that mandatory, unexpected overtime call, I can’t see bags under my eyes anymore, and I felt zero resentment when my officer wanted to workout on his day off. Like, am I one of those veteran police wives now or what?!
Doing this within the next week will take you less than 15 minutes, is as free as dirty tupperware you find like a gift in the sink or bullets in the washer, and will leave you thinking...
Wow. I didn’t have a meltdown on the kitchen floor this week when my husband got that mandatory, unexpected overtime call, I can’t see bags under my eyes anymore, and I felt zero resentment when my officer wanted to workout on his day off. Like, am I one of those veteran police wives now or what?!
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The first step in resilience is embracing your unique role as a police wife.
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Facing your life with an attitude of gratitude is key in this lifestyle.
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Your Officer's 2nd Day Off Vision
Use this visioning exercise to ask yourself what your day would look like if it was your officer’s 2nd day off, because I hear consistently that the 2nd day off is the day that we feel we are most supported and can literally breathe the best. We need to know what we want our daily life to look like before we move on with making practical shift in our routines, so fully embrace this step.
Use this visioning exercise to ask yourself what your day would look like if it was your officer’s 2nd day off, because I hear consistently that the 2nd day off is the day that we feel we are most supported and can literally breathe the best. We need to know what we want our daily life to look like before we move on with making practical shift in our routines, so fully embrace this step.
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Self Care
Advocating and designing your life in a way that strategically makes room for you and your loved ones to be taken care of regardless of shift or schedule changes is key to joy and peace.
Advocating and designing your life in a way that strategically makes room for you and your loved ones to be taken care of regardless of shift or schedule changes is key to joy and peace.
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Overtime Trap
Your husband is working a ton of overtime to pay the bills. You would love to do more for yourself, but you don’t have the money and don’t want to ask your officer to work for overtime? This guest lesson by Rebecca Jameson is for you. She will help you to get our of this concept she calls the “Overtime Trap” and make space in your budget for self care.
Your husband is working a ton of overtime to pay the bills. You would love to do more for yourself, but you don’t have the money and don’t want to ask your officer to work for overtime? This guest lesson by Rebecca Jameson is for you. She will help you to get our of this concept she calls the “Overtime Trap” and make space in your budget for self care.
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Independence
Even though we have very capable spouses who would love to be there for us, their job can sometimes prevent them from being there for us. We police wives need to design our lives to be independent regardless of overtime or unexpected shift changes.
Even though we have very capable spouses who would love to be there for us, their job can sometimes prevent them from being there for us. We police wives need to design our lives to be independent regardless of overtime or unexpected shift changes.
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Workout Resentment
I once told Rick that his time working out was a “luxury.” You will hear how and why I changed by mind about this, and even hear from Rick in his special debut in this lesson.
I once told Rick that his time working out was a “luxury.” You will hear how and why I changed by mind about this, and even hear from Rick in his special debut in this lesson.
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Thriving During the Holidays
Holidays can be a tough time for everyone, but especially police families. Use these methods to thrive next holiday season.
Holidays can be a tough time for everyone, but especially police families. Use these methods to thrive next holiday season.
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Reintegration
There are adjustments both the police wife and family make when the officer returns after extended time away. This lesson emphasizes the importance of maintaining routines, effective communication, and supporting the officer's transition back into family life.
There are adjustments both the police wife and family make when the officer returns after extended time away. This lesson emphasizes the importance of maintaining routines, effective communication, and supporting the officer's transition back into family life.
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Intimacy
Intimacy is unique with shift work schedules. We must purposely be conscious of connecting intimately with our partners unlike other non-police couples.
Intimacy is unique with shift work schedules. We must purposely be conscious of connecting intimately with our partners unlike other non-police couples.
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Build Your Tribe
Having other people in your life that “get you” is essential to your own peace, joy, and to go to for practical help.
Having other people in your life that “get you” is essential to your own peace, joy, and to go to for practical help.
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